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Three Happy Things

by Alex KC LEUNG
Friday, December 9, 2005. 08:36PM
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Thank you for appreciating what I told you and I am glad that your "Three Happy Things" writings are better and better. They are so meaningful and do inspire me a lot.

This morning, I talked with a good friend, G, who I respect very much and treat her like my teacher. I knew her for a number of years already.

She pointed out to me that I had been changing to a good direction and some bad habits after attending the course.However, I still do not know how to drop my baggage of my failure in the past.

The other night I had a dinner with her together with my boss and his wife. The dinner was really exciting because all three of them fired at me about my relationship with all my girlfriends and how to handle my life.

My boss, a true hearted advice to me was: (1) Trust - I got to trust other people in order to gain their trust (2) Communication - I got to listen to other people before I talk (3) Sacrifice - when I give out anything, be unconditional and never hide any second agenda

My friend - G - advised me to (1) Focus - I had had too many focus - and I focus out too much do not know to take care of myself (2) Priorities - I failed to set priorities and messed up all the things.

I was shocked in the dinner but after that I was so happy that they taught me so much.

The following morning, they asked me whether I got upset after knowing so much and whether they had been criticising too much.

"Of course, NO !"

I deeply appreciated what they told me as up to now, not too many people around dare to criticise me and only them. The reasons are that my parents passed away already. My ex-wife and children are far away from me and they do not care how my life is. My friends won't criticise because they can see my good points only. Even if they see something wrong, they will be the same as other people who can see my bad points that they will not say anything because they don't want to have a bad relationship with me.

So, I am now walking my own way forward alone. I can say that it is free but I have to admit that I may walk to a wrong direction again if nobody guide me and point out my problems somethimes.

Today, G told me that I had been teaching too many people. The intention is good but at the same time I have been spending too much time for them. Like a teacher, if he does not know how to master themselves, all students being taught by him will go to a wrong direction.

I tried to explain that I want to contribute myself to teach other people, sharing their problems and at the same time I might learn somethings through teaching them.

"Yes" G said, "But they got problems and waiting for your help, how can they offer a better answer to you ?"

It surprised me and her comments caused me to think for sometimes.

"When one mixes up with red, he becomes red, and becomes black when he mixes with black !" G said.

"So, what should I do ?" I asked.

G said, "don't ask me as you know pretty well. "

My boss in the dinner did say in the dinner that I should not keep on asking people about who I am, what I should do and where I should go and he said the same thing that I should know the answers very well.

Incidentally, I remembered that what I got from the course, "Be Happy", "Be Myself" and to enjoy my life happily.

G also advised me that I got to find out the core problems of my failure. Change my mindset or habits which caused the failure and walk forward with a new mindset and good habit. If I do not change that, I would get the same failure and walking toward the end my life round and round in a circle with same mistakes.

See, that's what all I told other people. I know about that but I am doing the same. What I should do ? I should just take ACTION. Not to talk but WALK.

Thank you very much for your comment about Osho and your WALK and improvement of your life cause me to know that I should be changed too as anyone can be changed.

The bell is also sounded for me as I heard the bell !

Hope we can further WALK to a better life !

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Monday, January 2, 2006. 10:48PM by Vishwanath Bhave
I agree with Rtn.John's views.You cannot find reace outside.You will have to search within.-Rtn.Ajit Bhave
Sunday, December 18, 2005. 10:52AM by Jack Selway
As you search "outside" of yourself, remember that all of us are searching for the same things: peace, happiness, or power, wealth, prestige. Peace is mostly found in surrender to something greater than ourselves. Regardless of your religion, there is something greater than you where you can find your direction. Study, meditate, become quiet and it will come to you.